Self Esteem Counseling in Los Angeles
Boost Your Confidence: Empower Your Inner Voice with Compassionate Guidance.
If you feel you need it, please reach out for help. I would be honored to help you address your self-esteem issues and find a path to recovery.
Hi! I'm Toby
I Offer Both Online and In-Person Sessions in Los Angeles and Burbank.
Los Angeles
1910 Hillhurst Ave
Los Angeles, CA 90027
(424) 835-0516
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Burbank
1201 S Victory Blvd #206 Burbank, CA 91502 (213) 616-7366 Click for Directions
What Is Self Esteem Therapy?
Low self-esteem is not written in our DNA. People are not born with a tendency for low self-esteem and negative thoughts about themselves, and it is not a hereditary condition. Self-esteem develops as a consequence of life experiences and can be dramatically influenced by the opinion we have about ourselves. There are a lot of tools and therapy modalities that can bolster self-esteem and self-worth. Healthy self-esteem can be nourished through consciously noticing our thoughts and actions, and disrupting our typical patterns. Ultimately, we know we’ve improved our, self-esteem because we see ourselves as more valuable and worthy of respect over time.
What Is Healthy Self-Esteem?
Healthy self-esteem often materializes in positive thoughts about yourself and a sense of optimism about life. People with healthy self-esteem view themselves as good at various activities or associate themselves with positive adjectives like “good”, “kind”, “worthy”. Positive self-esteem contributes significantly to a person’s success in life and their ability to have healthy relationships.
How Do You Know If You Have Low Self-Esteem?
Low self-esteem draws its power from your low opinion of yourself. You have low self-esteem if you often feel you fall short when you compare yourself to others, and you tend to be your harshest critic. Low self-esteem usually manifests in one of three patterns:
- Imposter syndrome – often experienced by high-achievers, the imposter syndrome manifests as the belief that a person is not worthy of everything they have achieved.
- Rebellion – the person chooses to wear the mask of indifference and pretends they don’t care about what other people think of them while defying authority.
- Powerlessness – stuck in their negative beliefs about themselves, the person believes they are incapable of overcoming challenges. Their negative self narratives heavily limit their ability to view all their options.
How Can a Self-Esteem Counselor Help
When a person has made a habit out of discrediting themselves and has a continuous pattern of negative self-talk, they’re at risk of turning their thoughts into perceived facts and developing a more severe mental health condition. Self-esteem treatment can help you challenge these confining negative beliefs, explore your real potential, and improve your relationship with yourself and others.
People with poor self-esteem and anxious minds often hide behind avoidance and safety strategies to prevent the world from seeing their “flaws”. If you decide to give therapy for self-esteem a go, the mission becomes to retrain your brain to test your anxious predictions and approach long-avoided situations. Cognitive-behavioral therapy has proven to be effective for people who manifest behaviors associated with low self-esteem, as well as EMDR and DBT.
Talking to a therapist about your pessimistic thoughts is often the first step to recovery. Self-esteem therapy is focused on your internal beliefs and thoughts and can help you learn how to cultivate positive self-esteem.
Furthermore, you will learn how to tolerate more neutral and positive thoughts and gain access to tools to help you challenge your self-criticism. While low self-esteem is not a diagnosis per se, its effects can do plenty of harm and become the foundation for severe mental health issues. Let me help you break the shame, self-doubt, and negativity patterns and improve self-esteem to be able to have a healthy relationship with yourself.
Start Your Journey to Wellness Today. Schedule Your Free Consultation
Remember that you’re not damaged and you’re not broken. Struggling with self-esteem is a very normal human struggle. Luckily, the field of psychology has tons of research about this subject in particular, and people are benefiting from it every day. Everyone needs help sometimes, and getting professional help is one of the most effective ways to manage and care for your emotions. Don’t hesitate to reach out today.
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Initial Consultation
We’ll have a brief call to get to know each other. We’ll discuss your needs and how I can help.
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In-Person or Telehealth
Our sessions will be held virtually for your convenience. No long commutes to come see me.
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Time to Do the Work
Recovery can be a long and difficult road, but it’s worth it. We’ll work through it together
Frequently Asked Questions
A low self esteem therapist helps you understand where negative beliefs about yourself come from and how they affect all aspects of your life. I can help clients learn to challenge negative thought patterns, build self-compassion, and create a stronger sense of self-worth. Through self esteem counseling, you can make positive changes, build confidence, and feel more in control of your thoughts and behaviors.
Low self esteem treatment often includes exploring core beliefs, addressing negative self-talk, and learning healthier ways to relate to yourself. I can use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR, DBT, mindfulness techniques, or behavior therapy to help you improve your self-esteem, practice self-care, and increase self-confidence. Worksheets and activities can also support growth between sessions.
Most of my career has been focused on helping people of the LGBTQIA+ community. I’ve especially done a lot of work supporting HIV-positive and trans clients. I am trained and certified in a variety of modalities, including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, etc. See my about page for a full list.
It can be appropriate and even highly beneficial to include family members or partner(s) during a session. All of this depends on what we are working on and where we are in that work. If it’s the right time, it’s an option, and something you are interested in, it can be very helpful, and I’m happy to support it.
I provide different scheduling options for patients based on their needs. I try to be as flexible as I can and schedule appointments on weekdays, weekends, and evenings. Please consult with me for availability.